Every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world–that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimatesecrets of your marriage. Elizabeth Gilbert
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When people are married, they are putting their lives on hold to protect their love. Their relationship is not perfect, but they are willing to work on it. They put up walls around their relationship so that only the two of them know the ways to keep it thriving. They keep windows open so that others can see what they have.

It is a great idea to have windows of openness so that you can get ideas for things you want to do or see how your partner likes to be treated or handle certain situations, but you need to have walls for privacy. You should put up walls around the life together where you can feel safe and happy with each other.

Source: Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace With Marriage

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